Ever noticed the audacity of some children to ask for exactly what they want? 

How old were you when you learned to stop doing that? And why?

For some of us, the answer is something like "folks like me don't get that thing I want." For some of us, it even feels scary, dangerous, risky to want a thing. It might look like:

• not quite knowing what you want,
• not knowing how to ask,
• difficulty making clear agreements,
• difficulty holding boundaries or saying no, or
• difficulty asking for help.

For many of us, these feelings are rooted in messages we received about our Blackness, Queerness, Indigeneity, Disability, Transness, Girlhood, Neurospiciness, Fatness, or other identities.

This workshop is a place to have a more nuanced practice around consent. We'll share tools and create space for both hard conversations and some Queer joy to reconnect with your sense of possibility.

Who is this workshop for?

• Queer* folks who...
  • want to create authentic and clear relationships
  • wish to expand their range of desires
  • struggle to express needs or set and maintain boundaries
  • often overstep their own limits or withdraw in relationships
  • want deeper access to their body and nervous system
  • repeatedly find themselves in relationships that don’t actually serve them

What you can expect:

• Introduction to somatic experiencing
• Practicing techniques to remain capable of action when the nervous system is activated
• Practice expressing desires and asking for what you want
• Exercises on boundaries, consent, and emotional self-responsibility
• Partner or small-group work
• Laughter and fun

What you might take with you:

• Better access to your “yes,” “no,” and “maybe”
• Tools for self-regulation and co-regulation
• A sense of connection with others longing for similar things 
• More clarity about what is needed to create safe containers for connection

*Note: This workshop is by and for Queer folks (2SLGBTQUIA+), and will center intersectionality. If you don't identify as a member of this community, please join us in one of our other workshops.